Don’t think for a second that when you get home from the hospital, you will ease back into your normal life. As you know, your life is now your baby’s life. Even a simple walk the first couple weeks takes a lot of concentration, an aligning of the stars plus 2 hours to get out of the door. Showering will be an afterthought. Working out, a thing of the past.
When you arrive home with junior, you may or may not want some time alone with your husband and baby, to start the adjustment process. Visitors may mean presents and prepared food, but it will also mean that you will have to be “on” and you might be exhausted.
It is an absolute blessing if your mom is able to take time out of her life to come stay with you to help out in the very beginning (who are we kidding – will you even need to ask??). She will be able to take the burden off you while you are recouping: making dinners, cleaning house, changing the baby, doing laundry, etc. She might get on your nerves after a couple days, but take a deep breath and remember she is only there to help you (and you will miss her like crazy once she leaves)!
My mom told me that when visiting new mothers be prepared for a 15 minute visit. Because, just as you said, they appreciate the gift/food/etc, but they are exhausted and distracted and can't entertain. I imagine for a good friend maybe you could hold down the fort while they shower...
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